This week's Fabulous Phi is Christina Castle, her admiration for study abroad and hard work ethic is just two qualities that she has brought into our Alpha Phi chapter here at GMU. Christina is a Junior majoring in English with a concentration in writing and rhetoric. Christina joined our Eta Lambda chapter in Fall '14 and since then has been an active sister with volunteering and holding the position of Director of Community Service and bringing back valuable international experience from her study abroad in Ireland. Christina was also chosen to be one of the three Spring 2016 Collegiate Perspective Bloggers for the Alpha Phi International Blog. Read below one of her pieces on what turning 21 means to her!
21 Things to Remember as I turn 21
21 years of love, family, friends, adventures and lessons. And, while a new world will be opened to me upon my 21st, the old one will still remain, and because of that, there are some things I have learned which I shall not forget from the 21 years past.
- Life is too short to spend time with people who don’t make you happy. Remove them.
- It is OK to do things by yourself. It’s a part of growing up, becoming an adult and becoming independent. Enjoy it.
- If you want to do something, do it. Do not let anyone keep you from doing what you want to do. If you want it that bad, go for it.
- Friendships will develop and decimate. Some may last a lifetime. Appreciate them all. You could not be who you are now without their presence in your life, no matter how short or long.
- Families are dysfunctional. They fight one minute and then say they love you the next. It’s OK to lose your mind when thrown into that mix, but, remember that you love them. No one else will ever know you in the way that they do.
- The law of attraction is truth and meditation can rescue your mental health. Positive thoughts. Positive vibrations. Positive life.
- Call more. Snapchat and text message less. There is something so much more intimate about hearing the voice of another on the other side of that phone.
- Stop apologizing. Stop apologizing for what you say, what you do and who you are. Only apologize when you have done wrong.
- Keep kicking the soccer ball, throwing the football and shooting hoops with your little brother. He appreciates it more than you know.
- Thank mom and dad. For everything. For it all. Just thank them.
- Minimalize usage of the word “hate”. If someone is annoying, you do not “hate” them. If they are rude, you do not “hate” them. Even if you dislike them, you do not “hate” them. Hate is a strong word and there are very few people in the world worthy of your hatred. So, stop saying it.
- Soccer will always be your first love. It’s OK for people to know that.
- Stop talking about other people and don’t sink to the level of others. Take the high road, no matter the difficulty.
- There is always going to be something that scares you. Just keep praying and you’ll find the strength to conquer it all.
- Non, je ne regrette rien. No, I regret nothing. Regret less. Everything you have done and haven’t done has led to this. There is no reason to regret anything that has helped you come to who you are.
- Stop wishing these days away. There will be a time when you’ll wish you didn’t.
- Be grateful for the luck of your birth in the U.S.A., where opportunities still remain endless.
- If money could solve all your problems, then you don’t have very large problems.
- If you do not ask, the answer will always be no. (I am aware of this cliché, but it’s necessary)
- Keep studying. You’re doing a good job. Keep it up.
- You’ve been incredibly blessed to have made it this far. Don’t forget about all those who haven’t, and don’t allow this life of yours to be a waste. Do it for them and if not for them, at least do it for yourself.